Updated 2/15/21. Originally Published 26th January 2021
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When you are discussing the workday with your colleagues, avoid discussing the issues you are experiencing. You believe that everyone will be empathic and understanding. Maybe share your viewpoint and experiences.
One word of advice. Do not.
Do not discuss your workplace issues that you are having with your boss with your teammates, vendors, or coworkers.
Before sharing or discussing, ask yourself the following:
- What is the purpose in sharing with your coworkers?
- What reactions are you expecting from your teammates?
- Will there be any negative impact on sharing?
- How widespread and frequent is teammate gossip?
- Who is the lead person that shares issues in the workplace with management? (Yes, there is always at least one person who does. You suspected it, and it is true.)
- Are your co-workers themselves having difficult situations and conversations with the boss, or with other teammates?
- Have the coworkers actually witnessed any of the difficult issues or conversations between you and your boss?
- If you are experiencing issues, consider alternatives to public discussion of the issues you are experiencing.
Once you arrive at the answers, consider your options.
If you are experiencing issues, consider alternatives to public discussion of the issues you are experiencing.
- Keep track.
- Make notes (confidentially).
- Speak with a trusted advisor.
- Protect yourself, if needed.
Research the available tools and resources to help you through difficult times with your manager. Curated resources can include:
Don’t Let Yourself Be Erased or ignored in the workplace. Your contributions are equally as valuable as your peers.
Conflict by the very definition will require interaction
Face the need to change
Acts of Microaggression
Everyone has value in the workplace.
Difficult Conversations with Your Boss
Is every meeting with your manager calm, civil and productive? Maybe a little preparation would help.
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